The Mature Boomer’s Secret to Reinvention
There’s a helpful article posted on Next Avenue, PBS’s website for Boomers. “How to Move On When Your Dream Fizzles”. The key point the scholars make is how important it is to replace an unachievable dream with one that ignites your passion and purpose. Point well taken.
However, finding a suitable replacement dream may not always be as easy as it sounds. Beneath the good advice, I would add that there’s a deep challenge that takes us into theological territory: the difference between finding meaning and making meaning.
When it has become obvious that there is a gap between the expectations we hold for our dreams and the probability that they will manifest as we once hoped, most of the time we experience this as a crisis. We need to take the time to mourn at the losses (dis-illusionment), and allow ourselves transitional time into the new dream.
Ritual scholars (the area in which, along with spiritual development, I earned my doctorate) call this “liminal” time. There is a period, sometimes extended, in which you feel lost and adrift. The status quo no longer has its hold on you and the new vision has not yet come into focus. Sometimes, one is blessed with a breakthrough that definitively ends one period and initiates the next. But most of the time, there is a less a moment of enlightenment, and more, a gradual lessening of the sense of loss and the growing urge to begin something new, or at the very least, a new way of doing things.
The thing is, when you explore new possibilities, it can feel very “made up”, as if–at least for awhile–you’re play-acting the part. But if it’s something worthwhile, something you think you can grow to love, that is enough to justify getting started and then to keep going, long enough until it becomes a habit.
This requires discipline, hanging in long enough with the hope that passion will once again kick in, if it hasn’t already. The key thing is to get going with something, anything, flowing forward through your life either within or towards meaning, like a river going over and around boulders–changing course constantly, but irrepressible nevertheless. You don’t know where your commitment will ultimately lead you to, but declaring that you are at least in the game, is a necessary start. You can’t “make up” passion–but you can certainly “make up” your conviction that you are somebody who has a contribution to make that the world needs and that step-by-step, you are intent on figuring it out. This is, indeed, the essence of “making” meaning. Not necessarily being hit by a thunderbolt–but the making of a mature choice.
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